Please Read These Words

Betrayal is the worst.  You trust someone, then they leave.  Maybe they leave with words–retracting previous promise–or maybe they leave without explanation.  What do you do?  What can you do to get on the mend?  If a love or friend or brother sister mother father priest bishop rabbi teammate or teacher lets you down, where do you go to replace that lost trust?

Betryal kills us a little bit, or sometimes a lot.  It can take away what connects us to life; we can’t know we are alive without a relationship context.  This context comes from who we know, and what we know about what these other humans think of us.  We are all a little codependent.  We need people to tell us we matter; and when people who have told us we matter suddenly split, we wonder if we were responsible for raising the axe.

The mending always comes, and will always be there ready and waiting–whether quick or seemingly forever.  As far as how people are, and how the world works, people can either “love it or leave it”…  Leaving it betrays life itself; and when we’re on the run, we betray our true selves.  We lose all hope for the mend, forgetting all earlier moments of fortitude.   I heard a guy say today, “Love it…  or love it!”   Unconditional love and acceptance for the terms of right now is IT.  A person can leave, they can disappoint, they can cheat lie and steal…  and we don’t ever have to feel betrayed if enough of us doesn’t want to feel betrayed. 

Feeling dissed is a reversable state of mind.  We forget what we’ve gone through before, we forget that hope returned way back when.  We forget to see that our choice to not take ANYTHING personally, is like the choice a person made to move on to something or someone else.  People get to do what they want to, and there is really not much you can do to stop them.  You can even lock people up for betraying someone’s trust;  even that doesn’t stop the forces of nature from finding a new connection, or from severing the world when the door clanks shut.